Monday, May 20, 2013

To the moms

We are going to pretend that today isn't Monday and go back to bed, k?


I saw this note posted on Facebook by a few friends/pages and absolutely loved it! As I prepare to meet my son and become a mother in a few weeks, I've learned that sometimes you just have to shut your mouth and smile when someone gives you unsolicited advice about pregnancy, labor, and parenting. I haven't run into too much crazy advice but we all know people can be very one sided when something worked (or didn't work) for them as a parent. The note below praises all forms of parenting and applauds moms for being so hardworking and great, despite how they choose to feed, diaper, sleep their child. With as much bullying that goes around the internet (and sadly  it doesn't end in high school), I think it is important to embrace the differences we share. Success in motherhood is defined a million different ways. I am so lucky to have so many examples of wonderful mothers (who all do things a little bit differently) in my life! 

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To the mom who's breastfeeding: Way to go! It really is an amazing gift to give your baby, for any amount of time that you can manage! You're a good mom. 

To the mom who's formula feeding: Isn't science amazing? To think there was a time when a baby with a mother who couldn't produce enough would suffer, but now? Better living through chemistry! You're a good mom.

To the cloth diapering mom: Fluffy bums are the cutest, and so friendly on the bank account. You're a good mom.

To the disposable diapering mom: Damn those things hold a lot, and it's excellent to not worry about leakage and laundry! You're a good mom.

To the mom who stays home: I can imagine it isn't easy doing what you do, but to spend those precious years with your babies must be amazing. You're a good mom.

To the mom who works: It's wonderful that you're sticking to your career, you're a positive role model for your children in so many ways, it's fantastic. You're a good mom.

To the mom who had to feed her kids from the drive thru all week because you're too worn out to cook or go grocery shopping: You're feeding your kids, and hey, I bet they aren't complaining! Sometimes sanity can indeed be found in a red box with a big yellow M on it. You're a good mom.

To the mom who gave her kids a homecooked breakfast lunch and dinner for the past week: Excellent! Good nutrition is important, and they're learning to enjoy healthy foods at an early age, a boon for the rest of their lives. You're a good mom.

To the mom with the kids who are sitting quietly and using their manners in the fancy restaurant: Kudos, it takes a lot to maintain order with children in a place where they can't run around. You're a good mom.

To the mom with the toddler having a meltdown in the cereal aisle: they always seem to pick the most embarrassing places to lose their minds don't they? We've all been through it. You're a good mom.

To the moms who judge other moms for ANY of the above? Glass houses, friend. Glass houses.

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17 comments:

Bridget said...

Love this Ruthie!!!

Samantha Cartwright said...

I love this.. I seriously have felt like people judge you the way you plan to do things for your child... latest one for me has been since i plan to go back to work, I get dirty looks from people or the typical awkward "oh". I have even read some blogs that look down on working moms specifically saying that if you are financially secure that you as a woman shouldn't work.. I honestly don't care what women decide to do whether its work, stay home, breast feed, formula feed, all that matters as that you raise your kid in a healthy happy environment that is pleasing to the Lord. I am so glad you posted this Ruthie! You have such a big heart and are going to make such a great mama. Cheers to all the mama's out there! =)

Candice Williams said...

This is AMAZING. the end. :)

Olivia said...

I love this! Thank you for sharing!!! Motherhood is so hard, it would make it so much easier if we could all just support one another!

Liz said...

truth :)

Chandelle Foote said...

Love this!! Thanks for sharing! :)

Lauren Elizabeth said...

My mom always tells this story about standing in the line at McDonald's. I was 5, my brother was a 1 year old just learning to walk, and my sister was an infant with explosive poop. All three of us started to cry, and my mom had poop all over her and so she joined in and started to cry as well. A nice old woman came over and said she would watch my brother and I while my mom took my sister in to the bathroom and cleaned her up. I'm a big believer that mother's are angels on earth.

Lauren P.
palladino.lauren@gmail.com

KRISTIN said...

I saw this on FB too and was going to post it! So amazing and so true! Mamas need to support each other not judge each other!

Janet Dubac said...

Wow! This is a really wonderful post! I love it so much! I can really relate to this and I am learning a lot from this post. Thank you so much for sharing Ruthie! You are absolutely helping a lot of moms here. :)

Lauren H. Edmondson said...

Love this. My child always seems to be "that child" in public that throws a tantrum or yells embarrassing things and I get all kinds of negative looks, but the ones I like to focus on are the positive "it's okay, we all go through it, hang in there" looks.

Carolyn said...

Love this!! :)

Sarah at Midwest Pillowtalk said...

this is perfection!

Sarah and Stewart said...

What a great post! I can't imagine how much advice there must be out there regarding parenting. The bottom line is everyone (well most people at least) are doing the best that they can! :-)

Sarah @ Life As Always

bkshives said...

Could be pregnancy hormones or just a long day, but that totally made me cry. Thanks for sharing!

Dana said...

Amen.

Heather Leigh said...

yay moms!!!

Jessica Lynn said...

I read this when you first posted it and loved it then just as much as I do now.

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