Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Fly Away


I am 8 months into motherhood and I could list 100 things that have changed since becoming a mom. One of the biggest changes I've felt since Ford came into my life is purely emotional. The second I met my son my heart swelled and I learned that my capacity to love is so much greater than I could have ever expected. People jokingly talk about "mama bear" instincts but they totally ring true when you have a little cub to care for. Life has become so much more precious. I now read news articles with a lot more empathy than before and feel an overwhelming sense of tenderness when I learn of friends or even strangers losing parents, children, or friends.  I am incredibly blessed to have both of my parents and all four grandparents living and loving and supporting my family but that is not the case for most people in the world.

Becoming a mom has reminded me that life is short. We aren't promised tomorrow and it is important to live a life full of intent and forgiveness. I look into Ford's big blue eyes and wonder what the future holds for him. Will he go through a "family is totally uncool" stage and be embarrassed when I drop him off at school? Will he play the silent treatment when we give him an early curfew in high school? Will he feel comfortable bringing home friends and girlfriends when he goes away to college? Yes, I am slightly crazy and think about these things but they are inevitable. My sweet boy is already developing preferences and the occasional stubborn personality. I know sass and backtalk are coming. We've had hard times with Ford and I know there are harder seasons coming but I want him to always know that Jon and I are his biggest fans. Not knowing what tomorrow may bring, I want Ford to go to bed every night knowing that whatever havoc he may have caused that day, he is loved and forgiven. 
 
Meeting Ford for the first time, August 1th, 2013

I grew up with an army of love and support from my family and I intend on giving that to Ford. It saddens me reading and hearing about broken families, where children feel unloved, inadequate or even detested. That is reality. Homes like that exist. This is what fuels me to teach Ford about love, togetherness, forgiveness, and hope. Hope that the world can be changed! Hope that there is good in the world. 

I've been a huge fan of Kristin Hannah's work ever since I poured myself into her novel . When I heard about , I knew I had to get my hands on a copy.  grabbed my heart, which was expected. I got to relive Firefly Lane, getting reintroduced to the characters I fell in love with, and watching as they grew up, got close, drifted apart, and fell apart. I don't want to give too much away because you should definitely get your hands on a copy (it is now available in paperback), but this novel has reminded me how precious the time I have with Ford is and how precious the time I have with my own mother is. Tomorrow isn't promised. I don't want to live a day without my son and my mother knowing how much they mean to me. 

Fly Away reassured me that where there is love, there is forgiveness. Right off the bat you learn about a girl named Marah losing her mother to cancer and you watch her life spiral downward for the remainder of the book. We will inevitably be in for a wild ride with our children in the future but nothing can stop me from loving them wildly. Kristin Hannah does a fabulous job of pulling at my heartstrings and keeping my tired mind running in this story of lifelong friendship, devastating loss, and redemption. We are reminded that no matter how low your life feels, you are loved and there is hope for the future.
 
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77 comments:

Pamela said...

I have some issues with my dad. My mom has taught me to forgive, in order for me to be more at peace & be able to move on!

Bridget said...

I love reading blog posts that I feel like are talking to me. I feel the exact same thing since becoming a mother and I think the same thoughts about the future. Before Turner was born, I had a hard time forgiving people for the wrong they did. I knew life was too short, but I also thought that it was too short to have these people in my life. I now know forgiveness is very important and to live life with resentment is not a life I want to live. I have so many dreams for Turner and teaching him the same things you want to teach Ford are high in my priority list.

Jenny West said...

Those that have hurt me in my life have taught me about forgiveness....somewhere in those painful moments, realizing that I still wanted those people in my life taught me that the only way to keep them was to forgive them.

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Meagan Hawkins said...

My mother is the person that has taught me about forgiveness and that life is too short. I recently lost my mother in July 2013 when I was 4 months pregnant with my son. He is now almost 5 months and I wish she was here everyday seeing him grow and helping me become a great mother just like she was. I still can't believe that she is not here, but I know that she watching over us everyday. I always hear her say "Be patient, be positive, I love you". I will in still that in my son everyday and I just hope and pray that he loves me back just as much as I do him.

Mel said...

I am just reading Firefly Lane right now! I was hooked after just a few chapters and I can't wait to see where their characters go from here.

For me, having children has made me that much more aware of how precious time is, and that there is no guarantee of tomorrow. It actually makes me feel quite anxious to think of my kids growing up without a mother. I pray each night that my children will never have to experience that.

Samantha Cartwright said...

Ruthie i truly love reading your blog. You always speak such truth and honesty in everything you write. Thanks for being an encouraging mama! :)!!!

The Curry Family said...

I love reading all of your posts. Your family is beautiful! I have a hard time forgiving (more forgetting) but, I know it needs to be done and I'm trying harder each and every day to work more on this. I owe this to my grandpa, he inspired (still does, even after passing away in September) me so much!

Whitney M. @ The Married Me said...

Kristin Hannah is my favorite author ever! All of her books are fabulous (and I don't think a single one hasn't made me cry!). If your interested I would read Night Road or Winter Garden next. Along with Firefly Lane those 3 are my favorites.

Lisa Brown said...

My husband would be the one who is trying to teach me about forgiveness; he forgives every one.

Lisa Brown said...

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Voices of NLD said...

Seven years ago come June I found out I have an invisible disability called nonverbal learning disorder (NLD.)
I was well into adulthood and while I had and have a great life in many ways I denied myself certain things I would have loved and been good at, probably--remarriage and motherhood because I didn't know what was wrong and didn't want to inflict my problems on a spouse and/or a child.
When I found out about NLD I had a choice. I could be bitter or I could forgive the doctors who had told me (when I was young) I was resistant to being adopted--when I loved my family incredibly and always knew they weren't the problem.
I could forgive or not the people who didn't like me because my gait was funny and sometimes I spoke too loudly or too softly and for a zillion other reasons.
I chose forgiveness because to go on we can't hate. It's not easy and there are days I find life more than hard. But most days it's so worth it!

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Brooke Hamilton said...

Beautiful post Ruthie!!! I've learned about forgiveness through past relationships, friendships and mistakes. I find life much easier to live with forgiveness being apart of it.

Elena said...

My husband has taught me about forgiveness as he is very forgiving person

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Haleigh said...

I've learned about forgiveness from mom! She is the most loving person!

Mami2jcn said...

My husband has taught me about forgiveness many, many times. :-)

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Lindsay Pineda said...

I'd love to be able to read this story. You describe it with such grace.

Lindsay Pineda said...

Oh and I had a situation with my now deceased grandfather and I've now learned to forgive through talking about it with my family and friends. It still hurts but I know it was about him;not me.

Lori Darks said...

Love this post! My mom always taught me to forgive. My husband comes from a broken family and he didn't really know what love was until he met my family. He saw how we interacted and was so shocked at how much we loved each other. I am so glad my husband can witness and feel love first hand with my family.

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molly cipolla said...

My mom has taught me all about forgiveness. I'm not naturally a forgiving person but she has taught me that the only way to truly find peace and happiness is to find it in your heart to forgive those who hurt you

molly cipolla said...

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Olivia said...

I have learned so much about forgiveness from my sweet Cooper who is just 20 months old. Young children are so pure and know nothing about grudge, it is amazing.

Kristi Ballweg said...

I was completely shocked when I saw this on Firefly Lane- my sister had me read the book a few years ago and I absolutely loved it- and of course cried my eyes out!! Such a wonderful story.

I cannot wait to read the sequel!!
I have learned forgiveness from my mother whole-heartedly. This post really rings true when you talk about broken families and feeling unloved. I had a hard childhood and my mother had it even harder but seeing her forgive others for things they have done to her continuously has truly been amazing!

wisconsin rapids said...

My grandmother taught me about forgiveness and its power.

Tricia said...

I have learned forgiveness from my husband. Before him, boy I knew how to hold a grudge, and bring it up almost daily. One day he just stopped and started reminding me about the good things a person can do, and I just realized it wasn't worth holding on to ONE harsh thing for all the many blessings a person can give you! Thanks for the giveaway!

Amy said...

Definitely my grandma. She's dealt with a lot of family drama in the past and has handled it with grace. Holding grudges just doesn't happen with her.

Rebecca Laesch said...

My husband has been an example of a true forgiving nature. He can forgive in an instant, express his forgiveness and find peace. A truly beautiful man.

susan1215 said...

My husband has taught me about forgiveness as he is very forgiving person.

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One Frugal Girl said...

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One Frugal Girl said...

I met my closest friends in my neighborhood growing up. Later in college!

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Kristen said...

A good friend of mine has been hurt a lot, but forgives and moves on. Holding onto anger hurts the person with the anger the most.

Kristen said...

tweeted
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Heidi Ann said...

my husband is teaching me every day :)

chambanachik said...

Someone who was only close to me for a short time helped me reconcile with my dad. I didn't speak to him for several years, and I'm so glad we have a good relationship now. He lives 1/4 mile away from me, and is truly a great friend.

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rachel said...

God's love -- He forgave me so I can forgive others!

JC said...

It would be my mom, she is the best listener and always has her way to calm me down and let me know "let go" and "forgiveness" are the best solutions after all.

JC said...

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Tina Tapia said...

Not only does a God show me forgiveness for sacrificing His only Son to pay for the sins of the world, but my husband has also taught me forgiveness. He was a victim of child abuse and molestation and has battled insecurity, fear and abuse his entire life until he let that burden go. He forgave his accusers and continues to pray for them daily.

Tina Tapia said...

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Ashley said...

My mom taught me how to forgive and forget. It helps you feel better not carrying anger toward someone else.

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Rebecca Graham said...

My husband is constantly teaching me to forgive others.

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Gina Wildorchid said...

My best friend has taught me forgiveness. We have gone through some rough patches in our long friendship, but are still best friends.

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Wanda McHenry said...

My husband has taught me forgiveness, we have a wonderful life with no heart aches!

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wizardewu said...

My dad taught me about forgiveness.


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Erica Best said...

my mom taught me how forgiveness but never forget

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MCantu1019 said...

I would say my sister.
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Kerry said...

My grandma always taught me important lessons in life. She always said not to hold grudges and taught me to be forgiving.
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wigget said...

i like her honesty

Kerry said...

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Janice said...

My mom has taught me forgiveness. She has a big heart.
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Howell said...

I had an uncle who taught me the most about forgiveness.

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Ashley T. said...

My mom has taught me about forgiveness.

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ms-texas said...

my mom & dad taught me about forgiveness

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Tabathia said...

My mother has taught me so much about it, she is so compassionate and she always talks about forgiving before it's too late

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Tabathia said...

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Betty C said...

I'm still struggling to learn forgiveness, especially when the hurt is from a close family member. My dear daughter-in-law has helped me with a situation involving one of my sons who basically disowned most of the family and now needs us. She has opened her home to him and makes it easier for the rest of us to try to communicate with him.

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Amanda Sakovitz said...

I would have to say my mom. She is a very forgiving person.
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Julie said...

First of all I love your post :) I would have to say my mom . She is the most forgiving person I know and it shows in her spirit.
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Anna Pry said...

mt sisters, we have had to do a lot of forgiving over the years between the 4 of us pryfamily5@gmail.com

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Thomas Murphy said...

My mom has taught my about forgiveness.

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Cori Westphal said...

I'd have to say my dad. He wasn't around much when I was a kid, he worked all the time. I didn't realize, at the time, that he was doing it for me and my brother. I just thought it sucked that he didn't care to be around. Later in life, I wish he would've spent more time with me, but I understand some of the choices he made!

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