Wednesday, March 18, 2020

My Favorite Baby Items As A 4th Time Mama

It's been almost 7 years since I entered into the black hole baby gear era! Despite having 3 kids in 3 years, I was shocked by how much baby items and gear had changed over that span. I have to laugh because most of the items I am using now for baby #4 weren't options or even on the horizon when I was a first time mom. I never gave into the big business marketing strategies that tell us we need wipe warmers and 15 baby towels and all of the latest and greatest technology but I did end up with a bunch of stuff I never used and quickly got rid of. I am by no means an expert on baby gear but I do feel well versed on what works, what you can skip, and what you definitely need with babies on the 4th go around. In fact, I kept barely any baby stuff after Gideon turned 1 even though I knew we would have more kids. I was done storing it all and knew I could borrow and buy what we needed when the time came (and knew it would be so much less than what we had!). This list isn't exhaustive but beyond diapers (Target or HEB brand), wipes (Kirkland Brand), and formula (Similac Advance), I can't really think of anything else we really use. I didn't add our swing, jumper, or exersaucer because those things are universal but I do suggest borrowing or buying those items secondhand.



Chicco Keyfit Carseat  
Chicco Keyfit Caddy Stroller
I had the Britax B Safe travel system with my first 3 babes and while I loved it, I got rid of it when Gideon out great it and wasn't totally set on getting it for this babe. I absolutely love our Chicco set, it could not be easier to install which is normally a pain to do and the snap and go stroller is a life saver. It has a huge basket and cup holders and folds really small. Nowadays I feel like first time moms are spending hundreds and hundreds on infant carseats which I know better it is not worth because you only use for a year. I am so happy with our choice for this carseat and stroller system! The fabric is

Boppy Lounger
I got this when my second, Lucy, was born and I don't know how you could live without it! It is the perfect "station" for baby and you can move it from room to room. Baby O would be perched on the lounger while we ate dinner, while I showered, etc. You have to stop using when baby starts rolling but it is a top baby product of mine for ages 0-6 months.

Lillebaby Airflow
I also got this carrier when my second babe was born and got rid of all of my other carriers. I prefer a structured carrier to a wrap and the Lillebaby has so much more support than its counterpart, the Ergo. I am barely 5 feet tall and broke my back when I was 14 so I need as much back support as possible. It is also mesh which is great for the Texas heat. I use it from the time baby is about 10lbs and don't use the newborn insert. My babies loved facing outward when they were about 4 months of age.

Baby Merlin's Magic Sleepsuit
ABSOLUTE LIFE SAVER! All 4 babes have used it and we are still using with Baby O. It is essentially like a thunder shirt/weighted blanket type contraption for babies to help with the swaddle transition. We've been using it for 3 months with O and trying sleep sack naps but he is addicted to the suit. We started using it during the dreaded 4 month sleep regression with the other babes.

Nuby Tuggy Teether
This is my first baby to use this toy and I have already bought it 3 times as a baby gift. It it stretches so you can manipulate it around the baby's hands so they can hang onto it. Best baby toy I have found.

GOOtensils
I bought these with Gideon to use for introducing food and they just collected dust. I found them recently with Baby O and he has them in his hands at all times. Perfect little teether with ribs to soothe their gums. 

Homemedics Sound Machine
We own 4 of these and travel with them no matter where we go. Our kids sleep through the night no matter what and sleep like rocks even if we have people over because of the sound machines. I also use one when I sleep.

Baby Einstein Playmat
Baby O got this as a Christmas present and he is mesmerized! We had a different playmat that I got rid of with my first 3 kiddos and none of them really liked it. They would get bored and mad but O has a blast on it! He pulls on the toys, loves the music and lights, and has a grand ole' time.

Water filled tummy time mat
We also got this for Christmas and it has been fun! We use it in OT for baby O and it is a change of scenery for tummy time. It is cheap and easy to empty, fold, and store for future babies.

AngelCare Bath Seat
We got this when our 2nd was born and it is perfect for newborns to age 1! My sister uses hers in her big basin sink but ours is in the kid's bathtub so they can take turns bathing with the baby. It is plastic mesh so it dries easy and easy to store and clean.

Dr. Brown's Original Bottles
I exclusively nursed my first 2 kiddos and then Gideon and Baby O exclusively formula fed. I researched the best bottles for gas and Dr. Browns are always at the top of the lists. Some people complain about how many parts they have but I don't mind at all. I have 4 bottles and could easily get away with 2-3. They reduce airflow so babies aren't as gassy.

Boon Drying Rack (large
I think I may use this for the rest of my life, even when my kids are big! I keep it next to our sink to dry bottles but also use it to dry knives, kid silverware, toys, etc. It is two pieces so it is easy to soak and wash.

Burt's Bees Zipper Pajamas
These are my favorite for so many reasons! I love that they are zippered (who would ever make baby clothes with so many snaps?!) and also slim fitting. I don't like when jammies are baggy on little ones but these are slim and have thick, well made, organic fabric. I like that a lot of their patterns are gender neutral.
 
Itzy Ritzy Pacifiers
Baby O is my first baby to take a pacifier and because we didn't know what age child we were going to foster (we are certified age 0-2), I had a few different options at home just to be safe. These have the Soothie nipple like the ones at the hospital but are way cuter.

Backpack Diaper Bag
I want to kick myself for how much I spent on my very first diaper bag back in 2013. Petunia Pickle Bottom Bags were the "in" thing and I got rid of mine quicker than you can say baby. I hated it. It was a giant backpack with a crazy pattern. I used a slew of different bags and backpacks for #2 and #3 but ordered this backpack diaper bag on Amazon to prep for baby #4 and I love it! I love all the little compartments and it is slim. I am not one to wear bright colors usually so I really like the muted gray tone. And if it lasts 1 year, who cares?! It was cheap and I can replace it. We have been using it everyday for 6 months and it is in pristine condition. I've also learned by the 4th baby that I don't need to pack my whole life in the diaper bag. 

Shea Moisture Baby Wash and Lotion
I love this line for baby O. It is made by people of color, all natural, ethical, and smells delicious! I use some of their hair products as well.

IKEA Antilop Highchair
Another thing I could kick myself for buying is a Graco highchair that was $130. It was bulky and cheaply made and I got rid of it before Lucy turned 1. The $15 IKEA highchair is everything! The legs come off and it stores really  well. It is easy to clean and aesthetically pleasing. I even bought mine second hand for $5!

Wednesday, March 4, 2020

What turning 31 did to my skin...

I turned 31 last year and had an "aha" slash "oh shit" moment when I realized I wasn't take care of my skin. I have been lucky enough to have never struggled with acne or skin issues and it wasn't like I had been in tanning beds or laying in the sun without sunscreen, I just realized I needed to be proactive with my skin now that I am in my 30s. The extent of my skincare routine was bar soap and Vaseline lotion at night before bed and even though it's been working for me for 30 years, other parts of my body were showing age and I knew my skin was next. I hate research and am very impatient but I wanted to actually learn what was best for my face and what were the best products to keep my face fresh and dodge Botox for a few more years. I'm pretty sure I am an influencer's dream because I went to my favorite people on the internet to do some sleuthing. Thanks to Jamie Golden, The Sister Studio, and Tried and True Moms, I finally have a routine that works for my pretty normal (not too dry, not too oily) skin and wanted to share my finds, not because I think it will work for everyone but because this is exactly how I found my routine, reading about others. I haven't gotten much sleep in the past 6 months with a baby yet I feel like my skin has never been softer, healthier, and happier. Oh and nothing I use is over $30! If the expensive stuff works for you, use it. If the cheap stuff works for you, use it. Again, I have zero expertise on skincare and the point of sharing is to give you a nudge to take care of your skin, it is your biggest organ. One way I HAVE been taking care of my skin is pretty much staying in the shade all summer long, wearing hats, and lathering 30-50 SPF often. Now that I've added a daily SPF, not just in the summertime, I am already noticing a difference in skin spots.

Okay enough talk, here is what I use, take or or leave it!

I never used to wash my face in the AM until I started my research and realized how yucky beds can be (even though I wash sheets every week) and how your makeup will go on smoother to a clean face. I wear makeup about 4 days a week and the other days I go natural so SPF is very important.  Washing my face in the AM helps me wake up after a not so restful night and jump right into child rearing.

CeraVe Facial Cleanser- $11- I love how soft this makes my skin feel! I keep one under my skin and one in the shower. It is smooth and lightweight.

Trader Joe's Rose Water Facial Toner- $4- I started using this last summer as a way to refresh my face after being out in the sun. I don't think I've ever bought anything from Trader Joe's I haven't loved. My kids also love using this.

CeraVe AM Facial Moisturizer with SPF- $14- I use this every morning, even if I'm not planning to be out in the sun. I also rub it on my neck and tops of my hands after reading about sun exposure while driving (look at your left hand in the summer and see how much darker it is than your right from driving!).


I am a night showerer so I keep a set of my face washes in my shower and under my sink in case I don't shower. This is my everyday list and I will add a few of my weekly products as well.

Botanic Tree Glycolic Acid Face Wash- $21- this face wash came highly recommended by Jen Reed (The Sister Studio) and she will constantly post comments she gets from people on how it has changed their lives and struggles with acne and different skin issues. It is lightweight with a little grain and helps work off my makeup.

CeraVe Facial Cleanser- $11- I dual wash and use the CeraVe cleanser again and it leaves my skin so stinking soft.

Palmer's Face Oil- $9-I can't believe I went 31 years without this face oil! I have heard it referred to as "Botox in a bottle" and I can see why. It wouldn't be ideal for oily skin but all I need is about 4 drops and my face and neck feel so moisturized and tight. I am noticing a difference in skin and age spots after using this for a few months too.

Jade Roller-  $10-  I keep my jade roller by my bedside and roll while Jon and I catch up from our days or watch a show. My sister once heard from a plastic surgeon that if everyone used a jade roller he would be out of a job because no one would need face lifts! I follow the included directions on what areas and how to roll.


Here are a few products I only use on average 2x a week, sometimes 3.
Palmers Coconut Sugar Facial Scrub- $8- I keep this in my shower and exfoliate 2x a week. It is made with coconut sugar and smells divine! It helps get the dead skin off my face and I dual wash with the CeraVe cleanser after

Baebody Retinol & Vitamin E- $20- I am so glad I learned about Retinol and how it increases the production of collagen thus shrinking fine lines and reducing wrinkles. I am at the age where I am noticing wrinkles pop up so I figured it would be better to be proactive than reactive in my 40s/50s. This is a strong one recommended by Heidi and Sissy at Tried and True Moms and I started noticing a difference within 2 weeks of using it! I use it 2-3 times a week after my dual wash and then follow up with the Palmer's Face Oil. Retinol can be drying for some people and make them peel but I haven't had that side effect.

Isle of Paradise Self Tanning Drops- $29- Also a Tried and True Moms recommendation and I LOVE them! I use 1-2 drops 2x a week and mix it with the Palmer's Face Oil and rub it all over my face and neck. One night I accidentally used 5 drops thinking it was my face oil and I woke up looking a tad like Donald Trump haha. You can even add a few drops into your body moisturizer.

Not exactly skincare but I can't NOT talk about one of my favorite prodcuts. I have been using Babelash since Christmas and oh my goodness my lashes are growing like crazy. Right now I am using it every night but will move to a few times a week once I finish my first tube. A $60 tube should last 3-4 months which is a heck of a lot more affordable than lash extensions.



I hope you enjoyed my edition of amateur skincare hour with Ruthie Hart! I am excited to get back into blogging, slowly but surely. I am working on a post of my favorite baby products the 4th time around.


Friday, February 28, 2020

Hart's Fostering Journey

It feels almost foreign to be typing into the Blogger interface. I hadn't planned on taking an almost permanent hiatus from blogging but life has gotten full in a way that I could have never expected. I hate to use the word "busy" because we are all busy and we all have the same amount of time in our days and the freedom to choose what we spend those precious hours on. In an attempt to update you on the past 2 years of life may be pages and pages of me rambling so I am going to try to be concise with the intention of being back on here a little bit more in the future. As you can probably guess from the title, we are fostering! We became a family of 6 in the fall when a sweet 2 day old baby joined our family through foster care and almost 6 months later we are head over heels, attached, and in love with a little boy we will most likely have to say goodbye to. I plan on writing a whole post about that part of foster care- loving and attaching knowing you will say goodbye- but that is a soap box post for another day.



So what led us to foster care? That is a loaded question that was years in the making. Since before we got pregnant with Ford, our biological son, we felt the conviction to grow our family through adoption. We started the adoption process when our daughter Lucy was just a few months old (my most recent adoption post here) and brought home our son, Gideon Aaron, through adoption in November 2016. To say we were overwhelmed physically and emotionally is an understatement so I we held off on adding to our family. In October 2018 I vividly remember how sick I felt reading the news that the state of New York passed a law to allow abortions up until 40 weeks gestation. A baby's heart starts beating at 6 weeks gestation and by 40 weeks most babies are already born and in their parents arms. We had started to talk about adding to our family and it was that day that I felt a deep conviction about foster care. There is so many layers to this story and how the Lord used our failed adoption match prior to Gideon to start to stir our hearts towards foster care. I started working at The Heart of Texas Pregnancy Resource Center shortly after we brought Gideon home because I began to feel this passion towards family preservation, not just fighting for the lives of babies. God was working and preparing us for our foster care journey years before we said yes. So that October day I asked Jon to pray faithfully with me about the possibility of foster care. Fast forward to January 2019 where we went to our first orientation with a local foster care agency and the stars aligned (pun intended because our agency is called STARRY). I was finishing up my last semester of an intense theology development program at our church and knew we didn't have the capacity for training until I graduated. We continue to pray, asked our community to pray, and started to research, learn, and ask for discernment and wisdom to move forward. We started our pre-service training in June 2019 and became licensed in early September. We knew it was going to be mountains of paperwork because we've adopted before but honestly nothing could have prepared us for the mountain RANGE of paperwork, training, background checks, rec letters, and other things we had to complete before becoming licensed. It is definitely not for the faint of heart... or disorganized person!

Maybe there will be a day that I go more in depth on becoming licensed and what is involved but in order to keep this post less than 1 million words, I will come to a close. Foster care has been so much more physically and emotionally demanding than I could have ever imagined but also 100 times more wonderful. Our weeks are filled with therapy, bio parent visits, phone calls, paperwork, home visits with CPS, attorneys, ad litems, and very little sleep but I wouldn't change it for the world. There is a chance we have to say goodbye to our sweet baby soon and I can see how people could easily throw in the towel after 1 go around. It is so much, so hard, so tender and emotional. I break at the thought of saying goodbye and not having that beautiful baby laugh to wake up to every morning. I crumble thinking of my forever kids giving the baby one last hug and kiss. I can feel my breathing pattern start to increase and a frog form in my throat as I type this but you know what? I will do this all again. I will sacrifice by time, sanity, emotions, heart, money, and family for the chance to love a child. We would have never met this sweet baby had we not said YES to foster care. I would not have cried out in prayer night after night and felt the love and closeness of my Father had we not said yes. The promises of God in scripture are more real for me than they ever have before because this world doesn't make sense and my God is the one thing that does not change. My heart will break, in fact it has already broken, BUT GOD. He is working, moving, shaping, and claiming so much glory from this season of my life. I will never be the same after foster care. Once your eyes are opened to poverty, injustice, and brokenness, you are never the same. I long for heaven and I know the Lord is using foster care to place eternity in my heart. This world isn't my home (praise Him for that!) but while I am here, I want to serve Him faithfully by loving His image bearers.

Night after night I host TED Talks in my head of things I want to say about foster care, Jesus, attachment, redemption.... if only I could record them into words. I hope to write more and answer questions more in depth to be informative and encouraging but also as a reminder to myself where God has me.


Wednesday, August 28, 2019

Creating an Adoption Photo Book for Your New Child

It’s been almost three years since we brought our son Gideon home through adoption and there are moments that still take my breath away. For example, when I think of his beautiful first mom and the brave decision she chose to place her son with us. Or when I realize all that I’ve learned through the process. If there is one thing that I have learned from adopting a child it’s that most things in life are out of my control and I am slowly coming to terms with letting my love for that control go. I’ve also learned that every adoption story is incredibly unique and different and for us– “thrilling” is a word I will forever use to describe our story.

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Tuesday, April 2, 2019

Date Night At Home

Last year when our 3rd kiddo turned one, my husband and I felt like we finally had our heads above water. Having 3 kids in 3 years really knocked us down and one thing that really struggled was date night. It wasn't only the physical exhaustion that got in the way of date night but also the financial cost. Babysitters, restaurants, movies, and experiences are expensive, and with my husband's travel schedule always changing, I hate to make a plan and have to cancel it. Most nights after we put the kids down we fall into bed like zombies and zone out on a show. Last summer we really hit a wall and felt a major disconnect in our marriage and Jon had the idea of a set, at home date night, once a week. Because at home date nights have been such an enjoyable part of our marriage, I wanted to share some of our favorite games, snacks, and ideas for TV free time with your spouse.

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Thursday, February 28, 2019

How To Organize A Family Photo Album Or Yearbook

Here we are, the last day of February which means 2019 is in full force! If your 2019 New Year's Resolution had anything to do with organizing your pictures from last year (or maybe the last 10 years),  you are in the right place. I teamed up with Shutterfly to share how I work a little bit each  month throughout the year to create a yearbook for our family!

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Saturday, December 1, 2018

Christmas Cards 2018

It's December 1st and you know what that means... our family Christmas cards signed, sealed, and on their way to be delivered to family and friends all over the US. If you know me personally, you know that I don't waste time when it comes to Christmas cards. I am the crazy lady who works on updating my address book throughout the summer so I am ready to rock and roll come fall. I think it's funny when people say that Christmas snuck up on them and they didn't have time for cards... you guys... it comes the same time every year! Okay rant over, I am just a Christmas card obsessed gal. Jon has been wanting to take family photos in his 1949 Ford F1 for a while and this year we used Logan Fahey Photography to make his dreams come true. I think I say this every year but these may be my favorite family photos to date (you'll see more of them later this month!). Using Shutterfly to create our Christmas cards is a no brainer, we have been loyal customers for the past 4 years for both Christmas cards and family year books (be on the lookout in the New Year for our family yearbook!). You can see our past Christmas cards using Shutterfly below!


I basically wanted to us 25 pictures for our card but narrowed it down to 4 on the front and 3 on the back. I love how Shutterfly gives you premade templates where you can play around with how many pictures on that template. I went with a rustic yet simple shiplap template and was able to completely customize the card (I love having a faith based message on our card). Because we've used Shutterfly for years past, most of my addresses were already uploaded and it look me about 5 minutes to add new addresses, choose my envelopes, and order. Boom. 

Shutterfly has a new feature that I thought was super cool (but I had no idea how to use because I am by no means a graphic designer). You can upload your OWN design and have it made into a custom Christmas card. How neat is that for all of you creative techies! Deals are crazy good right now, shipping is fast, and the quality is top notch. If you haven't thought about Christmas cards this year, hop on over to Shutterfly.  The Shutterfly team makes it incredibly easy to create and order your cards, they even have designers who will review your card and give you feedback on layout, wording, spelling, etc. 

Here is a sneak peek of our 2018 card. 



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Friday, November 23, 2018

A blanket with my face on it!

You guys. I am writing this post on my couch, fire in the fireplace, Christmas tree lit and twinkling, and wrapped up in a blanket with my face on it. Yep, and I am 0% ashamed. We took our family photos with Logan Fahey Photography in the back of Jon's 1949 F1 earlier this month and when I got them back, I basically wanted to decoupage all of them onto my walls. Wall paper is back in style right? Knowing that would be a little over the top, I opted for a plush blanket with my babies' beautiful faces on it. Earlier this fall I ordered canvases for our canvas wall from Collage.com and I noticed they had blankets with photos on them and I knew I had to have one. Growing up I used to think how boring it was that my parents and grandparents always got pictures of us kids as gifts but now that I am a parent... I get it. Give me all the hand print turkeys, homemade frames, and anything with pictures of my kiddos on it. Using Collage.com was just about the easiest thing ever. I chose my favorite pictures from our photo session and thought I would spend an hour on the layout choosing where I wanted pictures. Wrong. It took about 5 seconds for the pictures to upload and wa-la, the blanket was done. The layout was perfect and I was ready to order. Shipping was fast and the quality is amazing y'all. My kids can't get over that we have a blanket with their faces on it, they think they are hot stuff. I had originally thought of giving it to my mother in law for Christmas but I love it too much and ordering her one of her own! I ordered a 5 foot Sherpa blanket, perfect for Texas winters. It is so smooth and cozy and the colors of the pictures are clear and vibrant! I can't believe it.



Pointing out everyone's faces on the blanket. Mommy! Daddy's truck!


The kids have been fighting over who gets to cuddle under the new blanket. Or use it as a dance floor!



Collage.com has incredible deals all the time, be sure to visit the website for your Christmas and holiday gift needs!


Wednesday, October 3, 2018

Cloth Diapering, 5 Years In

As I stuffed our cloth diapers the other night, I was thinking to myself, 'I have been cloth diapering non stop for 5 years!'. And 18 of those months were with two babies in cloth diapers. That is a lot of poop, a lot of laundry, and a lot of cute fluffy bums. It's funny now that my youngest is almost 2, I feel so out of the loop on baby stuff. There are new gadgets, toys, and must haves, and those newborn days feel like eons ago so I have a hard time making recommendations to new mamas anymore. I am in the thick of toddler tantrums and preschool attitudes so I am your girl if you need encouragement there! Diapers are the one thing that I feel very versed on. The thought of not having anyone in diapers in the next 6 months (pleaseeee potty train easy Gideon!) is beyond me. I am sure we will potty train Gideon and decide it's time for another booty to wipe. SO. The point of this post is to tell you how the last 5 years have gone, what I've learned, what products I use, and how EASY cloth diapering can be.

Ford- 3 months old 

Lucy- 21 months old, Gideon- 3 months old



WHY CLOTH DIAPER
I am not a crunchy mama on today's standards but I do like trying natural approaches in addition to modern. There are a ton of reasons why cloth diapering is so great but I can't really give you one simple reason why we do. It saves a ton of money, it is better for the environment,  it is better for your baby's bottom (my kids have only had diaper rashes when they are on medication or in disposables/traveling), and cloth diapered babies often potty train earlier . Those are all awesome reasons but I just wanted to do it. It felt like a challenge that I wanted to face and when Jon said he was on board, I was all in. We started with our first baby so we don't know any different but we LOVE it. 5 years in and we still talk about how easy it is and how cute our kids look in the diapers. Hey... no one ever said "how cute is that baby running around in a soggy Huggies diaper!" but have you seen my babes in cloth?! Did you also know that they can double as swim diapers? We have a few Charlie Banana reusable swim diapers but our Bum Genius diapers have been swam in a ton of times!

PRODUCTS WE USE
Bum Genius 4.0 One Size Pocket Diapers
It looks like there is now a 5.0 edition but we have about 35 of the 4.0 diapers. I started out with 24 gender neutral diapers before I had Ford and that was plenty for one baby in diapers. I could have easily gotten away with 18-20 diapers but I wanted extras. I added 10-12 pink and purple diapers when Lucy was born because I couldn't help myself with the colors! I assumed we would have 2 in diapers with the 2 of them but Ford potty trained when Lucy was about a month old. I chose Bum Genius after reading reviews, blogs, and recommendations from other mamas. I've tried almost every style of cloth diaper and have gotten rid of everything but Bum Genius pockets. They are so easy to use and wash (more on that below) and they also look/work similarly to a disposable diaper (which is nice because we have a lot of babysitters/childcare at church/etc changing diapers).

Step Trash Can
We use a large white Sterlite trash can with a step lid as a diaper pail liner. I started out with a cute tin trash can from IKEA but had to get something bigger eventually. I keep it in a corner of the kids bathroom.

Cloth Diaper Pail Liner
We have 2 of these liners, one in use, one in the wash or backup. I wash diapers every 3 days (more below) and I was the liner with the diapers each time. There are many brands, I recommend reading reviews.

Diaper Sprayer
We are on our 2nd diaper sprayer in 5 years. Something broke/happened to our first one when we moved so we got a Bumkins one, highly rated on Amazon. I have it hooked up to the toilet in the kids bathroom and the diaper pail is nearby.

Wet Bag
We have 2 Itzy Ritzy wet bags. Like the liners, I keep a clean one in my diaper bag and then one for backup. I use the backup one a lot in the summer for swimsuits. We exclusively cloth diaper (as opposed to people only doing it when they are home) so I throw wet/dirty diapers in my wet bag and into my diaper bag when I am out and about. When I get home, I take them upstairs and put wet ones into the pail or spray dirty ones.

Coconut Oil
You cannot use traditional diaper rash ointment with cloth diapers because it ruins the absorbency of the insert. I keep a small mason jar of coconut oil on our changing table and use it at every change. Our kids have had very few rashes (usually when they are sick or on an antibiotic) and if it is bad, we will switch to disposables for a few days and use Dr. Smiths.

Drying Rack
We use this accordion drying rack to dry both the inserts and diaper shells. It stays in the closet next to our laundry room, more info on that below.

HOW TO CLOTH DIAPER
Cloth diapering isn't any harder than using disposables, it is just a tiny bit more work. Our diapers are one size and have adjustable snaps so your baby can wear them from 8lbs to potty trained. We started all of our babies in cloth diapers at 6 weeks old, after the continuous poops subside a bit! We cloth diaper exclusively and aren't scared to change cloth diapers in public. I change them just like you'd change a disposable but I put it in my wet bag when we are done. I empty the wet bag when we get home (usually 1-2 diapers because we aren't gone for more than 4 ish hours at a time, more diapers when they are younger). My biggest recommendation for cloth diapers is to change more often. It takes a while to figure out the correct snap sizes for your kiddos and since they are always growing and gaining weight, they can leak if you aren't making adjustments. Gideon is almost 2 so not peeing that much (and he pees on the potty throughout the day), but as babies, I changed my babies every 2 ish hours when we were home just to be safe. The boys were both heavy wetters so we used/use disposable overnight diapers (Target brand) after not being able to find a good cloth solution. The kids all slept 12 hours at 6 months so that is essentially being in a diaper for 13 hours, hard not to leak out!  When we travel, we use Target brand disposable diapers. We also keep a package or two on hand just in case. Gideon has to wear disposable diapers to Mother's Day Out (he just started last month) and uses about 4 a week. I put him in a cloth diaper right when we get home.

So.... you change the diaper, you remove the insert, and put it into the diaper pail. If the diaper is dirty, you spray it out in the toilet and put it into the pail.

WASH ROUTINE
I wash diapers every 3 days, sometimes 4 days now that Gideon doesn't use that many. When Lucy and Gideon were both in cloth, there were days where we went through so many diapers with blowouts so I washed more frequently. When I am ready to wash, I grab the pail liner and call it my Santa Sack, ha! I dump everything directly into the washer (remember, the poop has been sprayed into the toilet already so there isn't any solid waste in your washer). I add about 3/4 cup vinegar (I eyeball it so that is a guess), and put 1 TBSP Purex Free and Clear into my detergent dispenser. I did a lot of research on detergent and Purex is the only "normal" brand you can use on cloth diapers (versus cloth diaper specific brands that are incredibly expensive). It is important to use specific detergent because most mainstream detergents can strip your diapers of their absorbency. I switched over to using Purex Free and Clear on all of our laundry, easy easy! I wash everything on COLD and do a custom cycle. COLD RINSE, COLD WASH, COLD RINSE. Okay I lie, I don't do the last cold rinse anymore. I used to at the beginning of our cloth diapering days but my current routine is cold rinse then cold wash and it is done in an hour. Once they are done, I hang everything on an accordion drying rack. You can dry the inserts in the dryer but not the diaper shells, heat causes them to lose their elasticity. I use Grovia Mighty Bubbles on my diapers every few months to strip them of any build up or ammonia smell. They are tablets and really easy to use in your washing machine. I didn't start using these until after I had two in cloth but I recommend using them proactively. Once my diapers are dry (usually less than 24 hours), I load them up into my Santa Sack (also hang dry), and bring them upstairs to stuff. I can stuff 20 diapers in about 5 minutes and either do it in my room catching up on Jimmy Fallon or my audiobook, or in the playroom while the kids run around. We have a big wrought iron basket by Gideon's changing table that I keep the fresh diapers in.

TIPS AND TRICKS
  • I put a few drops of Young Living's Purification Essential Oil on a cotton ball and put it in the bottom of the diaper pail. It helps with the pee smell.
  • Every time I take the big bag of diapers out of the can to wash, I spray Thieves cleaner inside the can and on the outside too. I've always been terrified of Pink Eye and I know you catch it from fecal matter. It gets me in the cleaning mood and I usually spray the toilet seat, handle, diaper sprayer, and doorknobs in the bathroom while I am at it. 
Have additional cloth diaper questions? Send me an email



Wednesday, September 26, 2018

My Canvas Picture Wall




Ever since Ford was born 5 years ago (what?!), I've been printing photos on photo canvases with the vision of having an entire wall in our home with canvases of our family as it grows. I envision a wall without an inch of free space because there are photos of tiny babies, family vacations, Christmas card photo shoots where behind the smiles are 10 pieces of bribed candy, and kids who are growing at an exponential rate each year. We've had our family picture taken twice in the past year, once for Christmas cards and once for our church to spotlight our adoption story, and I haven't printed out any of the pictures yet. Knowing we have Christmas card pictures in a few weeks (how is it almost October?!), I knew it was time to order last year's canvas! I ordered two canvases from Collage.com and I can't tell you how satisfied I am with the quality! The canvases themselves are thick and sturdy, unlike some others that I've ordered elsewhere that are ridiculously flimsy. The colors are bold and bright and the picture is perfectly clear. I was shocked that the canvas came with hanging hardware already installed, I've always had to take them to a frame shop to get wires installed to hang. And let me tell you about order them for a quick second. It was easy-peasy and took me less than 5 minutes to upload my photo, choose my sizes, and complete my order. My order was to my house in less than a week! I highly recommend using Collage.com and they are constantly running killer sales! Right now everything is 50% off using the code FALL50. 

Here is a sneak peek at my canvas wall. 5 years down and lots more pictures to go!





Monday, April 30, 2018

1.5 Years Post Adoption FAQ

Gideon Aaron Hart
Born 11/7/2016
Placed with us 11/15/2016
Adoption Finalized 5/23/2017

A few times a month I receive messages through Instagram or email asking about our adoption. I get so excited to hear of people starting the process and looking for encouragement and advice and love sharing the story of our adoption. Many people ask the same questions.... agencies, cost, emotions, type of adoption... and I've been wanting to compile all of that info in one space. If you're a mama, you know how that goes... you have an idea in your head and it takes months to execute. I wrote a blog post here, right after we announced we were adoption that answers the questions:

  • Why are you adopting?
  • What type of adoption?
  • What is a home study?
  • What agency are you using and why?
  • How long does it take to be matched?
  • A little bit about open adoption. 
So if you are looking for that information, please click over to that post! Today I want to answer some questions about our specific experience in adoption and post. If you have additional questions, please email me at ruthiehart1@gmail.com

Agency
I talked more about how we chose to work with Christian Adoption Consultants in my previous post, and now post adoption, I couldn't imagine walking through it without them. Susan VanSyckle was our consultant, she was amazing every step of the way. Not just her work before and during our adoption, but she has created a private group for her clients that provides the deepest and most incredible support and encouragement. Adoption doesn't end with you bringing home a baby. There are challenges and obstacles that families made only of biological children will never face. There is sadness and brokenness that comes with adoption, and walking through it with other families going through the same thing is really beautiful. Our first match was through Adoption Choices of Nevada and when that match failed (more below), we went to the top of their matching list and matched with Gideon a few days later. CAC only works with "Adoption Friendly States". You can adopt in all states but "adoption friendly" means that once birth mom relinquishes her rights 48-72 hours after birth, they are irrevocable. 

Failed Adoption
If you've been reading my blog for a while, you would know that we were matched with a sweet birth mama for 4 months and thought we were going to be welcoming another daughter into our family. The baby girl was born, beautiful and healthy, and mama chose to parent her. As much as it broke our hearts, we were also filled with so much joy. Baby girl would not have to experience the trauma of leaving her mama. She was never ours to begin with. We have full peace with what happened, especially knowing that this was the road that led us to Gideon, who was always meant to be our son. 

Stork Drop
Gideon was known as a stork drop. His birth mama had been working with Adoption Choices of Nevada for a few weeks before he was born but didn't have the chance to match with a family before he was born. We got the call about a baby boy born on 11/7/2016 on 11/8. He was not even 24 hours old and our social worker sent us his picture. We prayed and knew that presenting our profile book to this mama was the next step in our journey. It was only 4 days after we found out we weren't going to bringing home baby girl, but it just felt right. We laughed at the thought of having a son, bringing him home to his beautiful pink nursery upstairs. We FaceTimed with Gideon's first mama on 11/9, she chose us on 11/10, and relinquished her parental rights on 11/11. We flew to Las Vegas that evening and met our son the next day, 11/12/2016.

Naming Your Child
We named Gideon and you can read about how we chose it here. Gideon's first mom named him Aaron Royal and that was listed on his original birth certificate along with her last name (more on his amended birth certificate in the finalization paragraph). When we signed placement paperwork, we had to declare what we wanted his name to be changed to. We kept his first name Aaron as his middle name. Many adoptive families use parts of the name given by the birth family or collaborate on a name. But as the adoptive family, you get to name the child whatever you'd like. His legal name post finalization is Gideon Aaron Hart and that is on his birth certificate and social security card. 

Cost of Adoption
The most common question I get is "how much does adoption cost?". I can only speak on behalf of our adoption which was on the expensive side, but there are cheaper agencies. Private adoption is expensive and I often hear people say "it should be cheaper so more people can do it!". And that is a double edge sword because yes I wish it was more affordable so more people could adopt, but once you adopt, you realize why it is so expensive. There are so many people working day and night to care for these expectant mamas, counseling them, taking them to their appointments, holding their hands as they give birth. There are social workers, lawyers, case workers. So when it comes down to it, they are making very little money and working very long hours. Sorry I am getting off on a tangent but post adoption, I now know why adoption is so expensive and I am not angered by it. Using CAC was more expensive, but we felt God pointing us to them every step of the way. We knew He would provide for what He called us to. Our package with CAC was $2,300 and we spent another $1,500 on our home study (look at this post for more info on a home study).  When we matched for the first time, the entire cost was due within 2 weeks and it was $40,000. We "lost" $16,000 in our failed match and we have full peace in that. That money is not ours to begin with. God used it to care for that mama and her family for 4 months. When we matched with Gideon, we had a balance of $24,000 in our account with Adoption Choices of Nevada and we owed another $10,000 to complete his adoption. We hired a lawyer who works directly with our agency for finalization which was $300. On top of those expenses was travel. We love flying Southwest because you can cancel/change your flights up to 30 minutes before your flight which was very helpful with adoption! Since we booked last minute to go to Vegas, flights were expensive, I think around $500 a piece one way. When you adopt out of state, legal paperwork must be filed between states (called ICPC) and you must remain in the adopting state until you are cleared, anywhere from 7-10 business days. Both of us had to be there at placement but only one of us had to stay through ICPC so we booked Jon a return flight, coming home 1.5 weeks later, and planned on me staying to wait for clearance. His flight was cheaper, but still not that cheap. I got a call a few days after Jon left and was on a plane 2 hours later. Needless to say, that was an expensive flight ($600) but well worth it! We were cleared to go home the day before Thanksgiving, praise the Lord! While in Vegas, we stayed with one of my best friend's Katie, which was absolutely amazing! It also saved us probably $2-3k of housing costs. Most people adopting in other states stay in AirBNBs or with friends when possible! I may be forgetting a few little expenses but my rough estimate is $55,000. Again, our adoption was on the expensive side. You can adopt from an agency in your state and that is often times a lot cheaper, and you don't have to pay for travel. 

Paying For Adoption
We had our first conversation about adoption in October 2012 and started saving for it then. We didn't adopt Gideon until 4 years later and paid for our adoption in cash. Many people raise money for their adoptions through garage sales, MLM parties, t shirt sales, and more. There are also a lot of grants available to adoptive families but I don't have experience with those. Again, I truly believe God will provide for what He calls you to. This doesn't mean $50k will show up on your door step but He will make a way. 

Open/Closed Adoption
Gideon's story is one that we keep within our family. It is his story to tell if and when he would like to. So questions regarding his specific first mom and why she placed him for adoption go unanswered. 70% of adoptions are open and I love how far the world has come in normalizing and removing the shame and stigma of adoption. We have a semi open adoption where we sent pictures and videos and updates to Gideon's first mama but we haven't seen her since we said goodbye in Vegas. We are praying we get to visit with her soon. 

Finalizing Adoption
Once Gideon was placed with us, we were his parents. This part gets a little bit confusing but basically we had physical custody of Gideon for the first 6 months but the agency had legal custody. He had our last name, he was covered under our insurance, he was our son. Each state has different finalization requirements but our social worker had to visit us once a month, 6 times, before finalization. Seems silly since we had already done so much work on our home study but that is the rule! We really enjoyed our meetings with her because we talked about our unique situation, how to talk to our kids about adoption as they got older, and she just got to know our family more. We also had to get medical forms filled out by his pediatrician at his well checks and submit those to our lawyer in Las Vegas. A month before we finalized, our lawyer called us with our court date, May 23rd, 2017. He stood in front of the judge in Carson City, NV with us on speaker phone and the whole thing took less than 3 minutes. But it was the most beautiful 3 minutes. Jon and I sobbed, standing in the same corner of his office we were in when we got the call about Gideon. This time, holding our son. A couple of weeks later we received Gideon's birth certificate listing us as his parents. This was very bittersweet. I know I am his mommy but I hurt for his first mom, seeing her name gone from his birth certificate. Again, there is sadness and grief that come with each part of adoption. From there, I was able to take his birth certificate to the Social Security Administration to get him a social security number. We got that in the mail when he was about 10 months old. 

Adopting Again
We do not feel like our family is complete at this moment but we aren't actively looking to expand it. This may be TMI but Jon got a vasectomy 2 months before Gideon was born after we both felt clear discernment that we were done having children biologically. The Lord has placed foster care on our hearts pretty strongly in the past few months and that is most likely the next step for our family We had 3 babies in 3 years and it was hard y'all! We are really enjoying our kids ages and the dynamic of our family so we are just enjoying it. Do we want a bigger family? Yes! How will it happen? We aren't sure. We want to be faithful to where God has us and obedient to what He is calling us to.

I hope this answers questions you have about adoption but if you are still left with questions, send me an email

Thursday, April 26, 2018

Lucy's 3 year old birthday list

Tomorrow our Lucy Joy turns three! Despite being smack dab in the middle of two brothers, she is all girl. Unicorns, ponies, pink, and glitter... that is our girl. We don't do huge birthdays in our family and try to keep the gifts at a minimum but I did want to share some fun things Lucy girl is getting on her special day. Since we have grandparents on both sides and aunts and uncles who also give gifts, I try to send her top list items to family so we don't end up with a million toys. Let's face it, birthdays can overwhelming for little ones (read the Berenstain Bears book Too Much Birthday!) and they are perfectly happy with a few new toys/games/items vs 20 that they never end up playing with. Below is what Lucy will be opening up tomorrow, a mix of stuff from mom and dad and family members. I love knowing what other kiddos are enjoying and playing with so I can get ideas!










Lucy is also getting/got.....

  • Two hand me down nightgowns (Belle and Elsa) from cousin Embry, she is going to be so excited!
  • New Play-Doh from her Aunt Tomi.... my kids are pros at drying out PlayDoh so to have back up is great.
  • A doll stroller from Aunt Cori....she got it 2 weeks ago and won't let it out of her sight! 
  • Real makeup....Lucy knows what's real and what's pretend and even though I know she will LOVE her Click N Play Makeup, I grabbed some real makeup brushes, eye shadow applicators, and eye shadow pallets all from the Dollar Tree. This will only be used on special occasion and I know she will be in heaven.
  • Unicorn coloring book and smock... this came from my aunt who knows her so well! She (and Ford) have already colored in it.
  • A talking baby doll from her Abuela....Lucy is in such a baby phase right now and often goes to bed with at least 3-4 babies. A girl can never have enough dolls!

Tuesday, April 17, 2018

"Half Of My Heart Is In Havana...."


Jon and I traveled to Havana, Cuba last week and still can't believe how beautiful it was! We keep saying to each other that it is hard to explain to someone who hasn't been there. The architecture is intricate and beautiful, I imagine it is what parts of Europe look like. The classic cars were our favorite part of the trip. The US cut ties with Cuba in the early 60s so no new cars have been imported from the US. It kind of feels like the whole city is stuck in the 60s. No billboards, no technology, no hustle and bustle like the US. It was really like stepping back into time. There is so much poverty in the city but the people are so happy. It was very eye opening to see people living on nothing being so content, meanwhile in America we all struggle with wanting more, more, more. One of our tour guides said Cuba is 25-30 years behind in technology and it is apparent when you try to sign onto WiFi, it is basically non existent! It was incredible to unplug, relax, learn, explore, and immerse ourselves into a new culture. 


Getting There
American travel to Cuba has been restricted until only recently after negotiations with President Obama happened. In 1961, America stopped trade with Cuba and it turned into a 50+ year issue, read more about it online, it is so interesting! Anyway, now that Americans are allowed to travel to Cuba, I wanted to jump on the opportunity (while we still can? Who knows what our president will do…). We flew Southwest Airlines- Austin to Fort Lauderdale and Fort Lauderdale to Havana which was only a 45 minute flight, gate to gate. Upon booking travel, we had to state a reason for travel since technically “tourism” is not allowed. After chatting with friends who had recently been, I wasn’t worried about not qualifying for travel. Options for reason for travel were journalism, business, family visit… a few others…and I chose journalism. I was told by friends and prompted by SWA to buy a Cuban Visa online for $50 a person. I did it 3 months ahead of time but we had the option to buy them at the gate in Fort Lauderdale. I would buy ahead of time just to be safe.  A valid passport is also a requirement.

Where to Stay
It is hard to get an idea of the lay of foreign land, especially land that not many people are familiar with. I talked with friends and read lots of travel blogs (also, ladies if you love travel, join Girls Love Travel on FB! The group is amazing and so helpful. Warning, it will make you want to travel, travel, travel). We learned that the hotels in Cuba are all government owned and while they are very nice, they are expensive and it is better to support locals by staying in AirBNBs. It is very common for people to stay in the homes of locals and the locals will cook breakfast, etc. We found the most adorable private apartment on AirBNB with amazing reviews! The reviews of the apartment and hosts were what sold us! We paid $36 USD a night (which was during peak time!) for a private apartment with a king bed, AC (not common!), tv, bathroom, mini kitchen, and living room. Here is the link for our AirBNB, I HIGHLY recommend it if you are going to visit Havana. It is in the Vedado neighborhood, right by the water, walking distance to Hotel Nacionale and so many restaurants/night clubs. We felt incredibly safe (our apartment had a gate outside the steps downstairs) and were able to get cabs immediately on the corner.

Money                                                                                                                                                 
The currency in Cuba is the CUC, Cuban Adjusted Peso. They also have another currency for locals called the CUP but it is not worth much so when you exchange your money, be sure you are getting CUC. After doing extensive reading on visiting Cuba and talking to friends who have been, we learned that the Euro has a better exchange rate to the CUC versus the USD. In fact, there is a high penalty rate for exchanging USD in Cuba and when you are on vacation spending quite a bit of money, you want to save as much as possible. Credit cards don’t work in Cuba so you must travel with enough cash to last you for the whole trip, that was a little nerve racking! I went into Wells Fargo (my bank), 2 weeks before our trip to order EUROS. Again, after researching and talking to friends, I didn’t want to run the risk of running out of cash on our trip so I ordered $1500 USD worth of EUROs. They do keep some at the bank but had to make an order for me which took a few days. Our AirBNB host picked us up from the airport and we were able to exchange right in the airport. We only exchanged about 2/3 of our money the first day, you are able to exchange currencies at most of the big hotels and banks.  I made sure we always had small bills/coins for short taxi rides and tips.

How Much We Spent
Jon has a Southwest Companion pass so I fly for free with him anywhere (cha-ching). We booked his ticket with points so I am not sure how much tickets cost but you could easily check Southwest.com or your favorite airline (we saw United and JetBlue flights there, not sure who else flies there). We paid for our AirBNB ahead of time with my credit card, which was only $130 USD for 3 nights! We also paid for a 3 hour classic car tour of Havana ($90 USD) through AirBNB ahead of time… I had no idea you could book experiences on their website, it was so cool! At the end of our trip, we exchanged the CUC we had left for Euros and then the day after we got home I went back to Wells Fargo to get USD and I got $465 back (we brought $1500). Everything is pretty darn cheap in Havana… we had sit down breakfasts for $7 USD, fancy seafood dinners with cocktails and lobster for $30 USD, and souvenirs for all the kids for less than $10 USD. Seeing all of the poverty in the country and learning how little the locals live on, we made it a point to tip really well during our trip. We also splurged and hired a driver each night for a drive around the city which was our favorite part but if you wanted to do Havana on the cheap, unnecessary. We spent $200 on cigars and rum as gifts too. As cheap as everything was, the most expensive thing we bought was a beach towel! We only had two small bath towels at our apartment and didn’t want to bring those to the beach so we bought one at the souvenir market. Only 2 booths out of probably 100 had them and we talked them down to $25 which was a lot considering the beach towels we have at home were $7.99 at Target! We also spent $80 to go Cabaret Parisien at Hotel Nacionale (more on that later). It was nice to be able to put money directly into people’s pockets buying things off of the street. I exchanged our remaining CUC to Euros at the airport and then Euros to USD at our bank when we got home and got back $465. So we spent a little over $1000 in Havana, plus our AirBNB ($140), car tour ($90), and flights (not sure). You could definitely do Havana cheaper though!  

Bringing Kids
This was a kid free getaway for us and I am so glad we didn't bring them. We were so confused by not seeing a lot of kids when we were there... our tour guide told us most families just have 1 kid because it is so expensive. We did see kids going to school in the mornings in their cute little uniforms but for the most part we didn't see a lot of local kids or tourist kids. I would have felt perfectly safe bringing my kids to Havana but it was just not somewhere I desire to bring them... it was hot, not a lot of places had AC, the sidewalks were bumpy and uneven, I can't imagine pushing a stroller, and we were in and out of taxis and buses. It would be a lot of work with kiddos to see the city and we were so glad to be able to explore without them!

What To Pack
  • ·         Comfortable shoes- I packed 3 pairs of cute flip flops, 1 pair of tennis shoes, and one pair of wedges and wore my tennis shoes 90% of the time and my comfy flip flops 10%. We did lots of cabs and taxis but still a lot of walking and exploring. Comfort over style in Havana!
  • ·         Sunscreen-  I threw in sunscreen last minute on the morning we left and I am SO glad I did! We both got burned on the first day riding in the classic car on our tour of the city, whoops. We made sure to lather up because the sun just feels a lot hotter down there. We also went to the beach one day so sunscreen is a must.
  • ·         Sunglasses- obvious item to pack but don’t forget! It is VERY hot and sunny
  • ·         Swimsuit/towel- if you plan on going to the beach, don’t forget your suit and a beach towel. We forgot a beach towel so ended up buying one at the souvenir market and it was pretty expensive ($25). Makes me wonder if they are just hard to find down in Cuba.
  • ·         Bags- Jon brought his work backpack and I brought a crossbody purse which was perfect for our trip. It felt weird not carting around tons of baby/kid gear, I basically had an empty purse the whole time. The backpack was nice for travel (my book, ipad, headphones) and also for the beach day.
  • ·         Hand sanitizer- we were warned that there isn’t much running water in public in Havana and I was shocked to find that for the most part, the places we went DID have it. A few times we were out and about without a place to wash our hands before we ate so hand sanitizer was a must. I also brought a package of baby wipes but we never ended up using those.
  • ·         Small package of tissues- one thing that was hard to find in public was toilet paper. Lots of places you had to pay $1 CUC to use the bathroom and then there was a lady in there selling toilet paper. Some places it was free to pee but no TP. I kept a small pack of tissues in my purse that I used for TP. 
  • ·         Immodium- despite being diligent with only drinking bottled water, we still experienced a touch of Montezuma’s Revenge. I think it comes with the territory of visiting a 3rd world country. Take my word for it and buy a small pack, Jon and I both used it. Also bring Ibuprofen. Long days in the sun can cause headaches and sore bodies.
  • ·         Sound machine on your phone- even though we had a private apartment, it got loud with barking dogs, taxis, talking people. We have a sound machine app on our phone and put it at full blast to drown out the city noises and sleep in.
  • ·         Toiletries- I brought our own shower toiletries and I am glad I did. The AirBNB had some non-descript bottles in the shower so I was glad we came prepared.
  • ·         Snacks- I packed quite a few snacks that we didn’t end up eating but it was SO nice to have protein bars, sunflower seeds, and Chex Mix in our apartment when we went back to rest in the afternoon.


Trip Advisor App
We use Trip Advisor all the time when preparing to travel and I learned something so valuable before we left for Havana. You can download the Trip Advisor City Guide for any of their cities that allows you to use it without internet! This was a LIFE SAVER!! Right when we landed in Cuba we realized we probably should have printed out a map so we could get our bearings but it was too late. I came with a list of what we wanted to do and restaurants I had researched with the addresses and how far it was from our apartment. I still have no idea how this worked but the Trip Advisor App tracked us in real time and we were able to figure out where we were and where we needed to go. This helped when trying to figure out where to eat (reading reviews), and finding our way back to our apartment. I am going to do this every time we travel, even when we are in the States! We tend to always get the notification from our cell phone carrier when we travel that we are almost out of data, whoops.

Speaking Spanish
I am going to be 100% honest with you and say that if you don’t have any Spanish, I wouldn’t go to Havana. The locals speak very little English and most of the restaurants we went to were all in Spanish. Jon knows pretty good Spanish (thank God!) and we still ran into some road blocks. We laughed at how funny it must look to talk to another grown adult but have a language barrier…. Lots of laughing and slow talking like we are talking to babies. If you plan on going to Havana and don’t know Spanish… start learning! “Como se dice” is “how do you say” and that is a great way to learn with a  native speaker. You also want to know how to ask how much something costs, where the bathroom is, giving directions to a taxi driver, basic food words, and numbers. Jon did most of our talking to the locals and I would just say that “Mi espanol es un poquito y muy mal”…. Very limited and very bad. The only time we spoke English was to each other so coming back to the states was funny! We instinctively spoke Spanish to the flight crew, customs workers, waiters, etc.

What To Do
I am going to list in bullet points everything that we did with a little info on each. We packed a lot into the 2.5 days we were there. The one thing we didn’t have time for was driving to Vinales (3 hours away) to see the tobacco/coffee farms. Many people also drive to Trinidad (4 hours away) to see the sugar farms. We ran into a lot of Europeans on our trip who were in Cuba for 1-2 weeks and they would spend a few nights out in the country on the farms. Our AirBNB host offered to help us coordinate a driver to Vinales, along with tours and lodging for a night but we just didn’t have time to fit it in.
  • ·         3.5 hour tour in a classic car of the city- our favorite part of the whole trip! Since historically Americans haven’t been allowed to travel to Cuba, my knowledge of the country was minimal. We learned so much, saw all of the best views and important landmarks, and loved getting to know our driver. We booked it ahead of time through AirBNB experiences. There are so many other fun things you can book through them! I highly recommend our tour guide Soto, he had great energy and a hilarious sense of humor. Here is a list of where we went on the tour:

o   Revolutionary Square- you will see the statue of Jose Marti and learn about Che Guevara and Camilo Cienfuegos, two huge figures in the Cuban Revolution that are still celebrated today. You  may recognize Che from Rage Against the Machine prints.
o   Colon Cemetery (Neocropolis de Crisobal Columbus)- famous cemetery where Christopher Columbus is buried. There are thousands of beautiful grave sites.
o   Almendares Park/Isla Josefina- the most beautiful park we’ve ever seen! It had gorgeous banyan and willow trees with lush greenery. We saw people in all white digging and burying things, our tour guide told us about a polytheistic, voo doo religion that came from Nigeria that is now becoming popular in Cuba. It was so surreal and sad to watch these people search and attempt to sacrifice things (we saw lots of animal bones and carcasses from sacrifices) to gain power, riches, and happiness. We came back to the park a few times, it was so gorgeous.
o   Hotel Nacional- this is the oldest hotel in Cuba, owned by the government and right on the gulf shore. It is beautiful and immaculate and has lots of information on the Cuban Missile Crisis. We walked through the underground bunkers and learned a lot that American History does not teach.
o   I can’t remember the name but we went to a giant army base that was built in the 14/1500s. Each time we were in a classic car, the drivers took us there, so you won’t miss it! It has the most beautiful view of the city right on the water.
o   Christ of Havana- also a beautiful view of the city from the other side of the bay. Cuban Jesus is holding a glass of rum and a Cuban cigar.
o   El Capitolio- this was our initial meeting place for our tour and we drove around it but it was closed for renovations. It is beautiful!
o   We drove through Old Havana and Central Park and learned so much about the beautiful city of Havana.
  • ·         Fábrica de Arte Cubano- this came highly recommend to us and it was amazing! It is a big old warehouse or church building that they’ve remodeled into an art gallery, exhibition hall, music venue, bar, and night club. It was $2CUC to get in and drinks were really cheap. We walked around all of the interesting art exhibits and listened to a jazz artist. We ended up in a large venue where they had a huge iMax like screen and were playing a documentary on scoring and music in Hollywood movies. It was SO COOL! We stayed from 8:30-10:30p on a Sunday night and it wasn’t too busy. I’ve heard it can get busy depending on who is playing music, etc.
  • ·         Museo de la Revolucion (Museum of the Revolution)- after learning about the Cuban Missile Crisis and Cuban history from our tour guide, we knew we wanted to go to this museum. It is in a beautiful stone building (all of the architecture is so old and intricate… makes me think of Europe). It was a bit confusing because it didn’t tell you what room to go in first so we had to piece things together, and like I said above, not everything was translated into English but we loved it. We had read reviews on Trip Advisor that told us to be prepared to learn about what the US did to Cuba and be shocked because they leave those parts out of US History… and they were right. Outside they have the real cars and boats the Cubans used during the revolution and so many cool artifacts. I think it was $10 CUC per person to get in.
  • ·         La Zorra y el Cuervo- we read about this jazz club before coming to Cuba and we are SO glad we went! It was right around the corner from our apartment and we were told to show up early which was good because a line formed 30 minutes before doors opened. You enter through a vintage phone booth and $10CUC gets you admission and two cocktails. We got there a little before 9:30p on Monday night and were second in line. It’s a small venue so they only let a certain number of people in. Doors opened at 10p and music started at 10:20p. A world famous group played, the drummer was insane, pianist was incredible, and bassist was playing 6 strings. We overhead a guy talking who composes music for orchestras for movies in LA and he came just to listen to this group. We absolutely loved it!
  • ·         Floridita- this is a famous restaurant in Cuba, known for being Ernest Hemmingways favorite bar and the birthplace of the daquiri. We went during peak lunch hour and it was insane, we didn’t even ask how long the wait was. They had a full jazz band and cocktails while you waited. We didn’t end up eating there but it was cool to see. It is right in the heart of Old Havana by Central Park.
  • ·         Feria Artesanal Nave San Jose- this is a huge souvenir market we went to, it’s right by where all of the cruise ships doc. Items were so cheap and we loved browsing, buying things for our kiddos, and soaking it all in. The artwork was so beautiful, displaying the classic cars and architecture.  We didn’t see any other stores where we could buy souvenirs so be sure to visit this!
  • ·         Playa Santa Maria- I had no idea beaches were so gorgeous in Cuba but they knocked our socks off! We took an air conditioned charter bus (Transtur) to the beach 30 minutes away (pick up/drop off was Central Park). It cost $5 CUC… a steal of a deal! Cabs to the beach were $30-40CUC. There were a few stops at different beaches but our AirBNB host recommended Santa Maria and it was nice because most people stayed on the bus for the next stop so it felt more private. We weren’t sure what to expect but there were lounge chairs and umbrellas you could rent for $2 CUC each and cocktails, food, and cigars for purchase. This was one of my favorite parts of our trip….we swam then laid on our chairs in the shade just relaxing. The sun felt a lot hotter than Texas sun so bring sunscreen! The bus picked up every 40 minuets until 6pm so we stayed for 2.5 hours then hopped back on the bus, it was the perfect amount of time.
  • ·         Cabaret Parisien- a few people told us about the Tropicana show in Cuba and after doing some research, it seemed expensive and over rated. We ended up finding out about the Cabaret Parisien at Hotel Nacionale and were excited that it was highly rated and more affordable ($40CUC each). We read reviews NOT to eat dinner at the show beforehand and we didn’t buy tickets until the night of at 9pm. The show is at 10pm so we were there pretty early and they seated us in the front row…. And by front row I mean I had to lean back during some of the numbers because I was about to get kicked in the face! The show was 100% in Spanish and it was wonderful! Beautiful costumes and dancing and it was such a different entertainment experience than in the US.
  • ·         We also spent time exploring on our own. Walking the small streets of Old Havana, going into hotels, looking into windows, talking to locals. One thing I kept saying to Jon was the lack of signage all over the city. When I think of America, I think of Times Square with all of the advertising and lights… Havana was the opposite. You kind of had to know where you were going because stuff was unmarked. As we walked, we weren’t sure if we were in a neighborhood or residential area or more commercial. Everything was intermixed. We loved looking inside of boxing gyms and schools… the children all wear cute little uniforms.
  • ·         Each night we went to Hotel Nacionale and chose a classic car we liked and paid the driver $30CUC to drive us around at sunset. It was so relaxing and fun!












Where to Eat
I am going to list all of the places we ate with a small description. I did a ton of research before we went and had a long list of restaurants to try and we didn’t go to any of them. We trusted Trip Advisor when we got there and took advice from the locals we met. We were told not to expect much from the food and I can see why but I wasn’t totally disappointed! We ate a lot of yummy seafood and ended our trip with a few Cuban meals. We definitely didn’t over eat when we were there and we were sad we didn’t get lots of treats (one of our favorite parts of traveling is finding awesome treats). I did bring a package of chocolate Pocky that we polished off when we came back to the apartment at midnight each night. I wasn’t prepared for the odd pairings of food at meals but we went with it!
  • ·         Toke- this was right by our apartment and it was a great place to go our first evening. I ordered shrimp and spaghetti and that is exactly what it was. A huge pile of spaghetti with garlic and tons of grilled shrimp. Jon ordered lobster enchiladas that turned out to be a bunch of seafood in a sauce with rice and beans. It was really good and so cheap. We also went here on our last morning for breakfast. Jon got simple fried eggs and toast but I got a Cuban sandwich and it was HUGE and delicious. A few restaurants served plantain chips, I love those.
  • ·         El Biky- also right by our apartment in the Vedado area, it was very fancy but really inexpensive. We got an “Americano” breakfast…. Bacon, eggs, toast, and fruit. They have a bakery attached so we got a chocolate pastry for the road.
  • ·         Elizalde- we were starving after the car tour and chose a highly rated restaurant by Central Park. This was probably my least favorite meal… it wasn’t bad but not something to write home about. I got a club sandwich and Caesar salad and Jon got some seafood paella or something? It was pretty expensive too.
  • ·         Balcon del Habana- our second night we asked our driver where he recommended we go to eat and he dropped us off here and we are so glad he did! It was on the beautiful deck of a big, historic home, with an intimate atmosphere. We got a seafood platter for 2 and enjoyed lobster tail, shrimp, and white fish. They brought out flan with a candle and sang happy birthday to Jon. It was our most expensive meal $50 CUC but so delicious.
  • ·         Café Nana- this was a few minutes from our apartment and we stopped in for a quick breakfast one morning. There were only a few breakfast options on the menu of each place we went to so we stuck with eggs, bacon, and toast and paid $10CUC. Lots of places also have fresh squeezed fruit juices.
  • ·        Fonda La Paila- we ate dinner here on our last night and it was absolutely delicious! We were so over seafood and got excited when we stumbled upon it while walking around and read about the delicious “bbq” on Trip Advisor. We got roast chicken, filet mignon, black beans, and black rice… it was amazing! It was tucked into the side of a hill with outdoor lights and neat decorations.

Getting Around
We took taxis most of the time. Cars are either classic cars or junky old Russian imports and we took about half and half. You definitely pay more for the classic car taxi so we did that when we wanted a relaxing ride but if we just needed to get from point A to point B, we would flag down a cheaper taxi. Always ask "Cuanto cuesta?" (how much?) before getting in. They also have these funny little motorcycle egg taxis that were the same price as a regular taxi. We took one for the experience and it was fun and windy. We had our AirBNB host pick us up from the airport and I highly recommend arranging airport transportation before you go. There is a bus system in Havana and it costs something like $.05 per ride. That may sound enticing but these monster buses were packed with 100 people at a time. Taking the bus is definitely a way you can save money during your trip but it wasn't what we wanted to do.


WiFi
Don't expect to be able to work during your trip to Cuba. Internet was scarce and intermittent. We bought WiFi cards and went to a park nearby to sign on (you can tell the areas with WiFi because you see a bunch of people glued to their phones). We were only able to send a few messages, load email, and FaceTime with our kiddos but no browsing or surfing the internet. I thought it would be overwhelming to be without internet but it was pretty darn awesome. It made me realize how much mindless time I waste on my phone. Jon and I talked, relaxed, napped, and just enjoyed the silence rather than filling our time on our phones. All of the hotels we went to had WiFi, but still not great connection.

I feel like I covered it all but if you have any other questions about traveling to Havana, Cuba, send me an email!
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