Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Date night

As you can imagine, our little Ford takes up quite a lot of our time. Sunday night I ate leftovers with one hand while bouncing a fussy baby and Jon came in from hanging Halloween lights and asked me what was for dinner. Yeah... things have changed since having a baby! Before Ford was born, Jon and I talked about the importance of our marriage and continuing to place it above our baby. Physically Ford comes first because I can't exactly leave a screaming, hungry baby to fend for himself, but emotionally, there is no way I can be a good parent unless I am connecting with my husband. Jon and I are still good at connecting now that we are parents but I can't lie to you and say it is easy. We still eat dinner together without TV but one of us has their foot on the bouncer to entertain Ford and we still love playing games but I am usually nursing Ford simultaneously...I've learned how to do a lot one handed ha! 

We know this season of life is temporary and soon we'll be able to put Ford down at a reasonable hour and have dinner alone rather than racing to bed the second we put him down to get a full nights sleep. And it will get easier to leave him with a sitter as he gets older. Jon is absolutely, hands down my best friend in the entire world. I think a lot of people say that about their spouse because it just sounds good but Jon is everything I could ever ask for not only in a husband but a friend too. I need long late night conversations with him and laugh attacks to the point of tears. That's why we knew how important getting away on our own would be.

Last Friday we left Ford for the first time with my parents to go see The Book of Mormon downtown. It's funny because that weekend my grandparents, sisters, and aunt happened to be in town so Ford was WELL taken care of! I had been looking forward to this night for months... we had the tickets even before Ford was born and I had pumped milk ready to go within a week of his birth. It was so fun to get dressed up and wear a non nursing friendly dress (no one tells you you won't be able to wear basically your entire wardrobe while nursing). 


Leading up to the night out I was feeling really great! I kissed my baby boy goodbye and didn't look back. It wasn't until we got to the theater and the show was about to start that I looked down and saw a video text from my sister. Gulp. I got a huge frog in my throat and tapped Jon. I held back tears and told Jon I missed Ford. It was weird. I was SO fine with it until I realized he was awake and making other people happy... away from me. I shut my phone and didn't watch the video until intermission.


My sweet boy!

I called for an update at intermission and felt so much better talking to my mom about how cute he was being.... he is quite the late night entertainer! We enjoyed the rest of the show and I was excited to get back to my little man...


It was a great first night away... we were gone for 4 hours and Ford did great. My birthday is on Monday and we plan on leaving him for dinner out. Although I know we will probably talk about Ford the whole time, I am really looking forward to getting out without him :). 

20 comments:

Nicole Webb said...

So glad y'all got a date night! with all the emotions that a new baby brings, it easy to put your spouse on the back burner. Ford is so stinkin cute! I miss that stage. Please enjoy it to the fullest (I know you will) because it really does fly by so so quickly!
Your sister is so great with the baby talk, such a sweet voice for babies! I'll bet she's wanting anther pretty soon, yeah? I mean how can you not? Embry is adorable too!

Amanda said...

SO happy for you that you and Jon got to get away for a little bit together! Hope your birthday is amazing girl! :) And the Book of Mormon I'm jealous I have heard it is SO good and so funny! xo

Candice Williams said...

I remember it being hard to leave James the first time. Now I tell my mom sure take him whenever :) I'm with him ALL the time and I wouldn't change it for anything but it is a HUGE blessing having my family twenty min away. When we lived three hours north this past year, it was very hard. We didn't know anyone and we never got a date night. Not one. Needless to say it is a huge blessing to be back home and we are so thankful for grandparents, family, and friends to love on James!

Carly said...

Aw, I'm sure it was hard!!!!

Carly
www.lipglossandcrayons.com

Ashley @ Words About Waverly said...

Good for you, momma! You are right, there will come a time soon where you can eat without nursing at the same time, but this time is so precious!!!! You look great. :)

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Elizabeth Goertzen said...
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Elizabeth Goertzen said...

So sweet. It is good to remember that this is just a season. Physically the NEED you and that just can't be put on the back burner. But it's so hard. I remember a year ago, out twins were newborns, and I kept wondering when will we be able to put them to bed and then not have to rush off to bed ourselves? It was a couple of months before that happened, but it did!

You're doing a good job!

Heather said...

It is SO hard to maintain a real relationship with your spouse during those first few months! It's great that you're making it such a priority.

Krista said...

Those times away are hard but necessary. Just wait until he can talk and calls you crying that he wants you to come home! Growing pains for all involved but we all come out the other side better for it :) Glad you are still getting some good connecting time with Jon!

The Arizona Russums said...

Two truths... 1) literally RACING to do anything and everything when the baby finally sleeps, including going to bed yourself. 2) finally not having to wear maternity clothes but still not being able to wear anything in your closet due to BFing :(

Kelsey Eaton said...

You are so right. The relationship with our spouse needs to come first. You can't give your little ones what you need if you don't put God first and your husband second. If that makes sense. Just my thoughts. :) It is so fun seeing you as such a sweet mama! You are doing so great!!

Sarah at Midwest Pillowtalk said...

i hope you enjoyed the show! you 2 are so darling together! it makes me want to hang out ALL THE TIME, lol!

Ashley Shelley - The Christian Wife Life said...

Thank you for writing this! I am always interested to hear about this because you're right, it is so important. Thanks for being an inspiration. :)

ps - You're looking gorgeous!

Heather Leigh @ Adifferent kind of woman said...

So glad you and Jon were able to get out! It's so important ;)

Happy Early Birthday btw :)

Erika said...

It's hard to get out... but so important, at least in my opinion. Especially if you have loving grandparents around. You look amazing!!

Pamela said...

Aww glad you two were able to get out & enjoy yourselves!

Pamela said...

Aww glad you two were able to get out & enjoy yourselves!

Miki {Becoming What I Always Was} said...

Ford is seriously the cutest baby alive. Is Ernie loving having a brother. I bet they will be unbelievably cute together when Ford is a tad bit older and can pull Ernie's ears and wrestle him. I love babies and dogs that play together. I love that you and Jon make your marriage the priority, it's obvious how much you love Ford, but Ford is only there because you and Jon are in love. I think it's important to remember to keep that relationship in tact and to keep the best friendship alive. It will give Ford an incredibly happy home to grow up in!

Bug's Mom said...

Getting out is so important! We haven't had a chance to go out, and since we've just moved to Alaska we don't have anyone (family) to leave Bug with. I'm too terrified to leave him with anyone else. Oh well. Someday! He at least goes to sleep around 9, so we have a few hours to ourselves. Thanks for visiting my blog!

Annie One Can Cook! said...

I'm so glad you guys were able to go out for a date night (and how great is it to have parents that live in the same town?!)--marriage is super important and like you said, in order to be a great parent, you have to have a great connection with your husband!

Ford is super, super adorable!! And how sweet is it that he loves to jabber and gab?! What a little cutie!

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