A couple of weeks ago I took a screen shot of a tweet (thanks Megan) that really struck me.
Jon and I were going through the pictures on each of our phones on our flight back to Austin this weekend and I ran across it and of course it got me thinking. Do I do this enough? Does Jon do it for me? Do our friends do it?
And the answer is no, not enough (speaking on mine and Jon's behalf). My language of love is 100% words of affirmation and Jon does a good job of filling it up, but that is in private. And I also speak that love language which translates into me constantly telling Jon how much I love him, how handsome he is, etc, etc, etc. But I realized I rarely do it in front of other people. Yeah I write about Jon on my blog and I hope you can see what a great man, servant, and husband he is but I am talking about real life people! In person. There are times when I am with a group of girls, my sisters, or my family and our men come up. Of course I will chime in with "Jon stuff" when necessary but let's face it ladies, we often talk about the bad more so than the good. It sucks to think about how many times I've heard women or men disrespecting their spouses in front of people more often than the opposite.
This realization breaks my heart. Jon is a wonderful man and honestly it is hard to come up with words to describe that greatness. I feel lucky to even know him. He's honest, funny, passionate about so many things, a believer, he's gorgeous and in shape, he's giving, smart, and brave. I wish I could shout those things every single day. But then comes the fear of bragging. If you give your spouse/mate a compliment will others think you're gloating? Bragging? That your life is better than theirs?
You know what....I am going to get over it! Steve Cooper is right....when did anyone get in trouble for saying something nice in front of others? Especially about your husband or wife. It's almost more special if your husband does say something in front of others because he feels so strongly he needs to tell you right then and there. Am I right??
This smile does things to me. Inside and out. It is contagious and his laugh just makes me giggle along side him (usually after one of us has made up a song or remembered a funny inside joke).
Jon is a man's man and I love that about him. He has always driven us around, always paid for us, etc. but he's also a great friend to his friends. He is one of the only guys I know who will call his friends to catch up and spend hours on the phone discussing faith, passions, fears...it's more than work and sports for him. It's funny when he complains that certain friends of his don't get deep with him. Not everyone is able to bare their souls but it amazes me how he values his friends.
The picture below is a typical Jon face. He is a thinker and a problem solver. Growing up, I didn't put intelligence on my "must have in a guy/husband" list and it wasn't until I met Jon did I realize how important it was. I've said it before that Jon is the head of our household, as God commanded, and I put full trust in him. We make almost all our decisions together but when an unsolvable (to me) problem arises, I know Jon will figure it out. He has a way of thinking I could only dream of. He's methodical, patient, and takes his time. I'd like to thank his engineering and math degrees but I know he's always been smart.
So take a second to think, do you compliment your spouse enough? Do you do it in front of other people? Is it genuine and heartfelt?