I have to say, I love my perfectly imperfect marriage. I think you can love your spouse, but not necessarily love your marriage or more commonly, love the thought of marriage, but not your spouse. I am lucky to love both. I say perfectly imperfect because we don't have it together. We argue, I cry, we pout (okay that is only me), we disagree, we don't see eye to eye...but MAN is it fun! More good/happy times than bad/mad times, and I hope most relationships are structured like that too.
What do you think of when you think of the perfect marriage? Spending every single night together? Sorry that isn't realistic because Jon and I both travel for work. Sex everyday? Hate to burst your bubble non married friend, but that doesn't happen. Home cooked meal every single night served on a beautiful table scape with fresh flowers? Um no. There are times I feed my husband cereal, eggs, and canned beans for dinner. Wife of the year! We have heated discussions about money and we're not always good at speaking each others love language.
But we love it.
I love that we don't have a standard dinner time or after work schedule. Sometimes its 5:30, sometimes it's 9:30. I love that we have been playing tennis with our $5 Goodwill rackets next to insanely talented 10 year olds who could kick our butts. I love that Jon and I usually sing to each other, original pieces of course, and always use different accents. I love that we shower together every night in a non sexual manner, we just like to be close. I love our house can be a tornado of a mess and together, we can make it spotless and pristine, 10 minutes before someone shows up. I love that we don't watch TV during dinner. I love that we can tell each other straight up if the other is rude, smells, has something between their teeth, a comment was out of line, etc. I love that neither of us is embarrassed around the other.
New gallery wall in our bathroom
Each one of our relationships and marriages is unique and has its quirks. Things we love, things we don't love, things we are good at, things we need to work on. Something that you may take for granted like nightly foot rubs or your hubby so graciously allowing you to watch Real Housewives reunions during MNF, may be something that other people are yearning for in their relationship. The beauty of marriage is that there is no standard. Jon and I are making it up as we go and despite the bumps and curves, we are enjoying the ride.